No end to making music

The other  morning I did what I've never done before. And not because I really wanted to.  I thought I should dutifully read the 55-plus guide in The Philadelphia Inquirer. just to see if there was any wisdom in it for those of us who don't consider themselves "retired."

Most of the section was advertising for such communities that seem to be blossoming.  I'm sure they have lots to offer ("peace of mind," "less time raking leaves," "high-end fitness program" ) but the idea of living in one makes my stomach churn.

What was most interesting were some facts from a 2010 Del Webb  survey on Boomers.

Along with other data about the exuberance of our generation, it reported that Boomers see old age starting at 80!!

I'm sure there are 80-year-olds who disagree. One of them surely is conductor Herbert Blomstedt. The other night we heard  him lead the Philadelphia Orchestra performing Beethoven's 3d piano concerto and the Eroica.

Speaking of heroic. Blomstedt  is 84.

How Dan Cirucci crossed a bridge

When Dan Cirucci of Cherry Hill, N.J., emailed me about his “bridge” to a new career, I was intrigued. When he told me that he'd had 750,000 page views on his blog in 3 years and he hadn’t missed a single day, I was smitten.

This man I had to meet.

Muscles, Memory, and Moving on

Susan Gore is a stream of chatter for so early in the morning at the Main Line Y. But it’s okay because she's talking about  triceps and glutes and every single abdominal muscle you didn’t even know you had (or more likely don't have)  The stream of instruction takes your mind off the pain.Which is why she has so many devotees, including those at Privately Pilates.

Recently,  in the midst of an agonizing set of stomach-straining "hundreds, " she reported that someone had slammed into her car. “The first thing I thought about was tightening my abs,” she announced cheerfully,  “and I knew I was fine."

Sometimes, she’s philosophical:

“Strength is not only how strong your muscles are but how well your brain organizes your body for movement.”

 It struck me as a metaphor for me:  What you do with the rest of your life isn’t so much about all the skills you’ve spent the decades developing, but about the spirit with which you rally them to catapult yourself forward.

How does that sound?

Can you retire your EGO?

Phil Goldsmith  has had more careers than anyone I know -- lawyer, journalist, deputy mayor,  bank executive, head hunter. He also ran  Fairmount Park, the Philadelphia School District, and as managing director, ran the city itself. Between some of those gigs, he wrote a book, took up drumming, trained as a spinning instructor, and tried his hand at art.
You might say the man craves challenges.
Now that Phil has left full-time work,  he says he's facing his biggest challenge ever -- to try to figure out what he really wants to do rather than do the things that help him feel important.

 

                       "Am I doing that because it's good for my ego?" --Phil Goldsmith
"When I first left the city in 2005, anything that came my way I agreed to do. So before  I knew it, I was on  7 or 8 boards. And that was just to fill my time and to make me feel important because I no longer had the importance of title. So you find other ways to feel important or find meaning.  And after a while you spread yourself too thin and you start to question whether

All about Nothing

 I love what Hal Kessler of Elkins Park wrote in The Philadelphia Inquirer this week. Here it is:

“A woman comes home from work and says to her husband, who is retired, ‘What did you do today?’

‘Nothing,’ he replies.

His wife then raises her voice and says, ‘Damn it, you did nothing yesterday.’

He replies, ‘I know. I wasn’t finished.’

After 52 years of work, I have learned to do nothing. I submit that doing nothing in my case, is a major breakthrough. I thoroughly enjoy doing nothing and view 2012 as an opportunity to continue to do nothing.”

I found Hal doing nothing this afternoon, and he had time to explain why he’s having so much fun.

For 38 years, until 1992, he worked as a teacher and later director of curriculum for the Philadelphia School District. For the next 11, he ran the World Affairs Council’s  Pew-funded project-- Schools of Excellence. Next, he was education director for the HolocaustAwareness Museum  in Northeast Philadelphia.

During much of this time, he said, he actually worked 3 or 4 jobs, -- teaching in the evening, writing reports for a management psychology firm and teaching at Chestnut Hill College.

“One day I said to myself, ‘This is a bit crazy!’ and I cut down to two jobs.”

Now, Hal, 79,  says, “I find I love just not having to watch the clock, though my alarm still goes off at 5 a.m. I have a leisurely breakfast and chart out the day. I have time for my two grandsons, 8 and 9,  and reading and golf.

“I call it nothing because I don’t have a job. That makes it nothing. I do what I want to do. That’s why I’m finding this retirement so great. I don’t have a job, no one to report to, no deadlines to meet.”

I can’t see my way to "nothing" yet.  As my friend, Art Carey, told me today, citing psychologist Martin Seligman, “We need a sense of engagement, of accomplishment. When you leave a career, you leave a source of those things. And then there’s routine. So we need a way to replace those things.”

Hal Kessler would disagree.

Unretiring in 2012, what's next?

A few thoughts for the New Year:
Do small challenges each day, rather than undertake a big resolution. As my former Philadelphia Inquirer colleague, Art Carey, reports in his column -- add a salad just for today;  tomorrow compliment a coworker; the next day maybe check your smoke alarms. These ideas get emailed to you daily, courtesy of the Daily Challenge.

(But even in recommending this, I've violated my own resolution for the year, which is not to speak in declarative sentences!)

Here's another thought:  do as the folks in Northampton, Mass.  do -- dance, drum, sing! We were there for the town's exuberant First Night (actually noon to midnight) celebration, where numerous intergenerational dance and vocal groups perform.

             Like this drum corps.








    And this dance group. (Anyone know its name?)

No wonder, Northampton is home to the singing group of movie fame, "Young@Heart".


As for me, besides the resolution about not telling my husband and kids what to do (hah!), I'm going to keep opening doors for myself, and try to decide which one I will eventually burst through -- energized and excited about a new challenge.